Comments on: Setting Your Children Up to Succeed

By: Jewel Toye

Jewel Toye — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 06:44:07 +0000

Once I originally commented I clicked the -Notify me when new comments are added- checkbox and now each time a remark is added I get 4 emails with the same comment. Is there any manner you possibly can remove me from that service? Thanks!

By: john alan turner

john alan turner — Thu, 22 Nov 2007 07:21:00 +0000

When I consider how God has parented me — how in his mercy he does everything he can to help me “get it right” — I cannot imagine doing less for my own children.

By: cynthia

cynthia — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 13:35:00 +0000

this is so important … setting your child up to succeed. I read a book called Biblical Parenting by Crystal Luddon and she said, “if you are in a tug of war with your children, put down your side of the rope and walk over to their side.” Remember that we are not our children’s adversary … and vice versa … we are their advocate! We are supposed to be on their side. The world is harsh enough. We need to give them that safe place to be, to learn, to fall, to get up again.

By: Jason Goroncy

Jason Goroncy — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 13:16:00 +0000

Thanks Jenn. That’s helpful.

By: Jenn

Jenn — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 13:09:00 +0000

Hi Jason!
Attachment parenting is a style that is based on following your instincts in parenting. We live in a society that is primarily about detachment parenting. Cosleeping, extended bfing, babywearing, gentle discipline and responding to your baby’s cues are some of the approaches but it is not just limited to these. I am a mom of 3 under 6 years old and just learned that my parenting style had a name with number 3, lol! You do not have to do all of the above and can still AP.

By: Jason Goroncy

Jason Goroncy — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 09:13:00 +0000

Thanks Heather for your post.

Jenn, could you say a little more about ‘attachment parenting’? I’ve never heard of it and would like to know more.

By: Jenn

Jenn — Tue, 20 Nov 2007 03:43:00 +0000

I am excited to have found this blog! We practice AP (attachment parenting) and it is sadly, not the norm in our church or circle of friends. We remain vigilant, though because the wonderful relationships with our 3 children are worth the criticism we sometimes get. Looking forward to some great discussions!

By: Jim

Jim — Thu, 15 Nov 2007 15:58:00 +0000

Heather, you have said it very well… The statement about enjoying your children is something that cannot be said enough. I have heard my mother say that she my now late father enjoyed me. At first I was put off by the statement but as you write about it I understand what she meant. My wife and I enjoy our two boys and I think that it was enhanced by having kids, now 12 and almost 10, when were in in our mid to late 30’s. I must also give my wonderful wife a great deal of the credit for setting the tone of parenting in our house. Being an only child has made parenting a bit of a challenge for me but she has helped me. As for discipline, we discovered with our first born that spanking made him more aggressive, and we stopped doing that. We discovered that a time out in his room or on a chair was much more ‘devastating’ to him as he is a social person. Now we have two boys (pre-teen to be sure) that are a pleasure to have around. Discipline I have discovered must take place early and is geared toward future growth and development.

By: LietoFine

LietoFine — Tue, 13 Nov 2007 02:50:00 +0000

This is what I try to do as well. Not to say that I don’t ever lose my temper or get frustrated, but I don’t consider that discipline anyway…that’s my problem, not my child’s. He’s only 18 months now, so I can’t really say how it’ll work out. I hope that as he grows up he understands that he is part of our team and not just a subordinate.

Cristi :]

By: sonja

sonja — Sun, 11 Nov 2007 15:55:00 +0000

Hi Heather … that sounds a lot like how we’ve parented. It can be intense, but there are a lot of rewards too. Like we enjoy talking to our children and they will still talk to us!! My almost 14 yo daughter still listens to me and I count that a miracle!! But it’s also because I listen to her and have since she was little. She has great wisdom in some things that is worth hearing. So does my 10 yo son … if I hadn’t been listening, (and been busy telling them how to do things my way) I would have missed it.